Expat girls and Italian boys
I’m not single, but for a moment I imagined what it would be like dating an Italian of my age. ughhh … mah … help … boh! It ‘s fun to imagine myself thrown into the scene after being married for 10 years. It’s not that I don’t have it in me to pull it off. Oh, I could do it without fear but would I wanna? I mean what’s more frightening is watching the hordes of available 30-40 something’s still living with mom? Ok let me jump to my million dollar-burning question, I want to know where do they do stuff like fooling around? Do they take their girlfriends into their bedrooms to show off their Jedi posters taped to the wall, while mom and dad are out to dinner? I don’t see any cars parked around with the windows steamed up, nope no parkers. Yes, I’ve seen their bedrooms. Of course, not those in that context, but when I was house shopping. Believe me these rooms with the their blue walls, single beds, car posters, sexy pin-up calendars and fish tanks exist. You can even f find a couple of vintage cars or stuffed animals from 1970′s!
So expat girls what does it feel to date one of these teenage gorillas? Now they have more hair on their chests that their heads. They say a woman’s biological clock ticks, but something with these guys aint tickin’ here. There’s a saying in Italy for people who don’t go out and have fun, we call them”casa-chiesa” in the sense that they go from their house to church and back. These guys are ruining this concept, these days it’s more like casa-discoteca. Livin’ it up with their designer jeans, sports cars, sunglasses and hair gel. Hey girls please don’t be fooled by their good looks and put-together style, they may not actually have a job.
In Italy the family is the main provider of everything, I seriously mean everything. They have their own housing, food, car and clothing expenses covered while mom and dad are still alive. After mom and dad are well ..deceased they get their home too. They don’t have to sweat to pay their bills, they are living the Italian dream. They can’t care for themselves so a wife and children are really out of the question. Kids? Italy has the lowest birth rate second behind Japan yet Italians are the most sexually active population in the world! At least until they inherit mom-n-dad’s big empty house and need to fill it with you! But don’t get sentimental over the gesture, this is so they can get clean clothes and a plate of pasta. Just make sure you know how to iron his white undies and can prepare a decent fettuccine. You will never be as good as mom so just give up! My last piece of advice, put the brakes on if he calls his mother “Mammina” (Mother Dearest) BINGO because you got one of these for sure!
Hi there! I stumbled across this while searching for something else related to living in Italy (I live here too), and thought I’d comment!
My significant other is Italian, owns his own home (which I now live in as well) and works very hard. In fact, almost all men we know here work and live in their own apartments or houses that they either rent or bought with mortgage. I am a social tango dancer so meet all sorts of people and I have met a few people who live at home but it is actually very rare. So, if anyone reads this: never fear, there are guys in Italy who do live alone and who can wash dishes, cook, iron, all that stuff. Maybe in certain cities it is not economically possible, but in my experience that stereotype you have written about here is not necessarily always true. (Yay!)
I’ll look around and read some of your other entries, nice to “meet” you!